Protesting The Playboy Club   3 comments

Tonight I found myself doing a lot of that silent head-shaking thing that people do when someone is doing something they don’t approve of but they can’t say anything.  You know the move – just a slow wave of the head with the chin tucked and the eyes rolled up.  It’s the move we make when something disappoints us.

This is the only kind of bunny I'd like to see on TV.

I am disappointed – tonight The Playboy Club airs on NBC.  I’m writing this post at 10:30pm pointedly to show that I am not watching that show.  Instead, I am protesting it.

Before you start to think me prudish or close-minded, let me explain why I find this show disgusting.  It’s simple really – it plays up the sexual fantasies of some men, specifically men who buy into Hugh Heffner’s idea of what it is to be a man.  Apparently, being a man involves ogling women, at the least, and having sex with many, many women at the worst.  It means a man can make his reputation and his financial fortune off the physical appearance of women – an aspect of her person that she cannot, without massive stores of cash, change.  It takes advantage of women who have a certainly physical type and then admires them for only that physicality, until it fades.  Then, these women are useless.

This show speaks to the worst of human nature – our ability to objectify each other to meet our own needs and our needs only.  I know people argue that the women in Playboy and the Bunnies themselves choose these lives, and I know that on some level this is true.  But it is true only because women are not always valued for all that they are.   It is not hard to believe that a woman would accept her value as being based in her looks if that’s what much of our society tells her is valuable.

I also grieve because of the damage that pornography has done to men who have been wounded by this industry, whose wives and partners have been wounded by this industry, and whose relationships with women will always be shaped by the images and depictions of women that they saw in this industry.  If you’d like to read more about one man’s struggle with pornography and the way he is, day by day, overcoming it, please visit my friend’s beautiful, honest blog – See No Evil, Pour No Evil.

So tonight, I grieve for our culture – that we think this depiction of women is fair, that we think it good to glorify the behavior of some men in this way, that we have spent months advertising a show that deals with these things, and that we have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars to put this show together.  I grieve that we do not choose to value each other for who we are – complex, beautiful, flawed, people with minds, emotions, and yes, bodies.  This, this makes me sad.

What do you think of this show?  What are your thoughts on the depiction of women in shows like this? 


3 responses to “Protesting The Playboy Club

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  1. First of all, I absolutely agree! In fact, I was reading your other post about loving your elders and was going to tell you about my humorous story about kidnapping my mentor from an assisted living home for a vacation, as an example of how it is a responsibility for us all to care for the elderly, relative or not. Then I saw your protest against the Playboy Club and I had to read this post and leave a comment. Sometimes I think the women’s movement never happened — it kills me that woman aren’t protesting on every online corner for the sake of our daughters (and sons). I work in advertising so I know if people don’t watch, the advertizers won’t stay with it, and the show will be history. Let us hope that will be its fate!

    If you are interested in a humorous take on getting older (I am 63) and engaging with the elderly (my mentor is 83), please stop by The story is entitle: To Whom It May Concern: I Want a Do Over.

    All the best!

    • Thanks so much for stopping by. I really appreciate your comments. Here’s to the end of this show! Thanks, too, for the link to your blog. I’m on my way there now.

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